Parts of ourselves that make the whole...or not

If you were to sit back for a moment and think about who you are and the many parts that make up you, how many would you find?  Would this sentence even make sense to you?

Do you remember the last time you found yourself at a stalemate regarding a decision, or a time where you had too many choices?  Did you ever consider that there were parts of you involved and in conflict?  If you've noticed yourself saying "a part of me wants to...abc...but another part of me wants...abc...?"  And so there is a tug-of-war happening there right inside you!

We're such multifaceted creatures made up of many, many different parts.   

There's the Musical You, the Friendly You, the Amazing You, the Genius You, the Calm You, the Peaceful You, and many more parts that make up who you are - much like an identity part check list:

 All round good guy/gal ...tick 

Uniquely amazing you ...tick

Witty and intelligent ...tick

Lovable and charming ...tick

Moody and indecisive ... What? Who me???   Never?

Selfish and greedy ... that's just not me!  Never?

Self opinionated ... Nope, not me!  Never?

We have wonderful attributes, and some we'd much rather keep hidden, but really, it's okay to acknowledge we have both.  There's a part of me that's greedy.  I can be greedy and thirsty for knowledge.  On the flip side I will give away this knowledge to others.  In a nutshell, there's a part of me that really wants it and another part that gives it away.

Sometimes we have infighting going on between parts because one wants to do one thing and the other part wants to do the opposite, this is that tug-of-war.  An example is when you hear yourself or someone else say "A part of me would really love to move on but then again a part of me would rather I stay" or "There's a part of me  that loves what money can bring but there's another part that says it's not important".

Eventually we can become indecisive, apathetic, confused or frustrated, to name but a few.  If a win/win negotiation becomes lose/lose our parts will slowly begin to separate from our true self.

Imagine for a moment a plump juicy, untouched mandarin.  With the mandarin's segments still deliciously intact and protected by its shiny, orange outer skin, it's whole.  Now imagine that these segments are the mandarin's parts or aspects if you like.  Once peeled and a segment is broken off it then becomes separate from its original form.  Very much like our parts when they separate.  The difference is we can reclaim ours - the mandarin simply gets eaten.

If this is you, then some transformational coaching can bring the parts back together again.

 Something Fun to Do

 If you've haven't given much thought to how many sides of you there are, maybe you'd like to try the following exercise.  You can do this as a group or as something private and only for you.

 Here's what you do:

Pencil in approximately one hour of 'Me Time' in your diary for the weekend, a day off, or after working hours and find yourself an area where you'll be undisturbed.

Get some A4 coloured sheets of paper, coloured pencils/textas/crayons, scissors, glue, and a large sheet of white card paper, and anything else you might like to include.

Get into the Zone by spending some time in quiet contemplation before you start.

When you're ready - write on your coloured sheets of paper the parts of you that you discover.

Some examples might be:

Busy Me!  Genius Me!  Loud Me!  Considerate Me!  Hormonal Me!  Selfish Me! Masculine/Feminine Me!  Creative Me! The Sex Goddess/God Me! Wicked Me!

Cut out all the different parts and glue to your large card paper - you might like to add stories to it, favourite quotations and anything you believe is relevant to you.

When you've completed this exercise, step back and notice how truly unique you are.