Some of my philosophies-10 points on children for the new parent

Having been there, done that, and seen this seen that, I've written the following brief points for you to use as a guide. 

• Take the words from others in good grace - accept what you know will be the most congruent for yourself and family.  At the end of the day, friends, acquaintances and other family members live under a different roof.

• If confused about all the advice you receive from others, take some time to ask yourself "what is important to me in all this?"

• Do yourself a favour - arm yourself with the knowledge that if you join support groups, there will be times unsolicited advice will be given.

• If you find yourself in states of hopelessness, sadness, and gloom you're unable to shake regardless of what you do - seek help from a professional.  I had post natal depression with both my children and it wasn't until I actually started to receive the help I needed that I could finally see the light surrounding me.

• Make a list of three different things you do each day that creates anxiety for you.  With each point ask yourself:

      "What is the purpose of doing this?"

        "How important is doing this, really?"

        "What do I need to do now that will help reduce my anxiety?"

        "What is the positive aspect of this?"

        "What is it costing me?"

• When you're done, put your list away and come back to it later.  Once you read the list again, check if you still feel the same about the three points. If you do, brainstorm a few ideas on how you could do things differently.  If the points no longer having pulling power and you're ok with it - congratulate yourself!

• Start a meditation program.  Use this opportunity for some 'me time'.

• If you're new to meditation, there are some great how to books out there, CD's and meditation workshops. I've published an electronic e-book titled 'Book of 10 Colour Meditation Scripts' where you can record your voice using my meditation scripts. 

• Slowly start doing some of the things you used to prior to baby arriving - it is possible.  Start with the smallest and gradually work your way up.  I started writing bits of poetry and lists, strangely enough, and I loved it.

• Retain your identity by keeping in contact with friends - even if it's only by phone. 

• Self esteem - identity changes with sleep deprivation, no need to whip yourself taken on one of societies biggest roles - motherhood Your child is potentially the next prime minister of this country!

• Most importantly, be kind to yourself!

by ©Michaela Scherr, Transformational Coach & Intuitive

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